Be that independent girl
An independent woman is the most important attribute to look for. I will be the first to admit that I would never go out of my comfort zone because I was so dependent on someone else, I would never chase after some of my dreams because of the scare of failing and being judged, and I would constantly feel like my happiness depended on someone. Little did I know, months down the road I would finally realize that all of those things are totally FALSE. From becoming an independent woman, I have learned these things:
1. Don’t depend on anyone else
You will have people disappoint you in many ways – bail on you, lie to you, etc. If you depend on anyone for your own happiness, you will start to realize that you no longer have happiness in your life. Don't let those people you depended bring you down with them. I will be the first to admit that I would rather stay home on a Friday and Saturday night, instead of going to the hottest party. I work a lot and I wouldn't have it any other way, I know it will pay off in the future.Your true friends that understand that you are trying to build your successful life up and don’t want to go out and party every weekend, will stand by your side and succeed along with you.
2. Live your life - on your terms
I have always and will always put everyone else before myself, that isn’t a bad thing, but there comes a point when it is too much. Take care of your own physical and emotional health, because at the end of the day your life does matter. If you want to go on adventures, GO ON THOSE DANG ADVENTURES! Life is too short to not do what YOU want to do.
3. You’re being judged? WHO CARES!
A wise person once told me, “if you don’t have someone talking behind your back, you are doing something wrong”. Boy if that isn’t the truth. EVERYONE has someone in their corner waiting for them to fail, prove those pointless people wrong and make them wish they would’ve never said the things they said, make them look like the idiots. Those people obviously have too much time on their hands, go ask them if they want to know how to use their time wisely, because you’ll teach them.
4. Know exactly who you are and what you want
You have that goal you want to meet? You know exactly what career you want to be in? GOOD FOR YOU! You drive yourself to succeed in that goal and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Don’t hang around those people that have no idea who they want, what they want or even know who they are. Surround yourself with people who can vocalize and be proud of the person they are and what they want in their life.
5. Whoever gets you is going to be LUCKY
Independent women with a solid head on their shoulders are hard to find and they are beautiful inside and out. Men, if you have that woman… you better keep ahold of her. Don’t do her wrong, don’t make her question herself, because if you do, she will come out stronger and better than ever in the end. To all those men out there that understands that they have a pretty amazing independent woman… GOOD FOR YOU!
To close this out, I just want to say that I have not always been independent until recently when I realized how far I have come, how I have overcome some of life’s craziest battles, how successful I am, and how godly driven I have made myself… ON MY OWN! Anyone can do it; you just have to put your mind to wanting to be that independent girl.